“When I’m completely absorbed in self I ignore God, I end up thinking more about self than God. I ignore who God is and what he is doing.”
As we face change, we face the temptation to fight the change. We get caught up in the agony of the change itself – and the self within us.
If you’re just tuning in to this three-part series, you’ll want to carve out a few minutes to read Part 1 and Part 2. I’m writing about change and how it exposes the “real me.” We’re in almost constant transition – with jobs, family, relationships, and ministry.
The final portion of this series below isn’t intended to be formulaic or prescriptive. Navigating change is more fluid than that. However, the following may be helpful just the same.
Embrace the change.
- It’s here. It’s real.
- Don’t play the martyr or victim role. “Why me? This isn’t fair.”
- Don’t let shame paralyze you. “I’m not good enough. I can’t do this.”
- Don’t play the hero role: “I’ve got this.” Pride will kill you.
Position your heart and mind.
- Be honest with God. Talk with him. Journal your prayers and thoughts.
- Your attitude matters. Hope leads.
Trust Jesus as your Guide through your journey.
- Make some observations.
- What is going on in this circumstance, this change?
- What is going on inside of you? What’s going on “under the hood?”
- You need others.
- You weren’t created to go it alone.
- “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” - Dr .Brene Brown
- Face what you need to face.
Make heart change.
- As God reveals, challenges, calls you to repent, shift your focus, and live in the heart change he wants…follow Jesus.
I don’t know what your change is. If it’s about the change in your career that won’t give up… if it’s about the job that hasn’t come, if it’s about the finances that won’t stretch far enough, if it is about the child that won’t come back home, if it is about the marriage that is crumbling or the ministry challenge of transition…again.
Whatever that is for you… there is a journey below the surface that is worth engaging. And in that change and in that process you’ll discover your private, your public and your real self.
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:35 & 37
Hear the Spirit of Jesus speak to your real self – in your confusion, anxiety and stress – “there is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
Keep your eyes focused on Jesus. Know that in this discipline of change and transition God is maturing you, growing you, calling you forward.
What else would you add to help others naviagate the choppy waters of change?